'We won't be in touch': 30-year-old tells roommate he's never going to speak to him when they move out, causing tension at home

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Nov 27, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Roommates are difficult. They can really make or break your quality of life. There's nothing better than coming home to good roommates who you enjoy, who you can talk to about your troubles, who you can have a social life with from the comfort of your home. But when you come home to bad roommates and feel like you have to make a direct run for your bedroom upon entering, then you know you have a problem. 

In the story below, the protagonist has been living with his roommate for a few years, which is a long time to live with someone. He claims they have no communication. When his roommate casually drops that in 5 years they won't live together, but will still keep in touch, the protagonist immediately gets heated and informs him that there's no way they'd be in touch. This causes unnecessary tension between them. Read the full story below. 

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    AITAH for telling my roommate we won't be in touch when we don't share an apartment anymore

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    I m30 have been living with my roommate m31 for a few years now. I don't dislike him or anything but we have nothing in
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    common. We never go out together to do things. He has a car and I don't, and I never ask him to drive when I need to take
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    my cat to vet, instead I grab a uber each time. We don't even tell each other if we won't be home for the next few days
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    unless I ask him if I need someone to watch my cat over the weekend or something. The
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    only time we spend together is when we are sharing the living room in the evenings, but even
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    then he wears his airpods and I do some gaming and we just mind our own businesses.
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    The other day he said something like "In 5 years when we live in different places but still keep in touch" (within a context that is
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    irrelevant right now) and I said we won't be keeping in touch. The share of the apartment is the only thing we have in common and we
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    won't even text each other for anything. He became dramatic about it but I am not saying that because I don't want to keep in
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    touch with him, just because I don't see a friendship without having something in common like
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    that. I don't even think I'd keep him in my socials because he is a wanna be influencer and nothing
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    he posts feels natural to me and I muted him everywhere but I wouldn't even keep him in my socials. AITAH?
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    CeramicToast • 9h ago You could have just said "Yeah sure". By the sound of
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    it, he was just being friendly, not actually making a commitment.
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    Ba... • 9h ago • Edited 7h ago You could have just demonstrated that with your actions, not your words. It's
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    like you pre-ordered resentment from him, unnecessarily. YTA.
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    Zealousideal_Fix7... 8h ago Do you have any emotional intelligence?
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    NervousBrother7... 10h ago YTA come on, you must realize this is a rude and insensitive thing to say. Basic
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    tact is letting it pass even if you internally think you probably won't stay in touch. There's no reason to
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    go out of your way to tell him you are never going to talk to him again once you're not forced to by your shared space.
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